Quote Nymphie:
Why are siblings so bloody unhelpful? I've been looking after my Mum now since about July, when she got her Breast Cancer diagnosis, and have essentially been her carer since she started Chemo. I've had to sort the sickness, to give her meds, to clean up the mess, to make sure she eats, to be up half the night, to take her to appointments, to calm her down when she starts freaking out about her hair having fallen out… It's a full time job, and nowhere in all of this, has my brother done a single damn thing to help.
He just goes out with his friends, or buggers off to Huddersfield for weeks at a time so he doesn't have to deal with it - since he can't 'cope' with Mum being so ill. Yet at five months pregnant I apparently can?! I've let it slide for weeks now, because he was told from the very beginning that I was going away from the 25th to the 29th, and my Mum agreed that it was only fair to be given some degree of a break before I burn out.
Yet lo and behold, my *insert expletive here* brother, has now decided that he doesn't know if he's going to be at home, because he might go over to Hudds again. Thus meaning, no Expo, no break, no time to myself and no chance of regaining some shred of sanity - because unlike him, I do have a problem with leaving someone that clearly needs someone there, alone. What happens if her temp spikes to signal infection in someone with no immunity? I hardly think someone that struggles to get out of bed post Chemo is going to be in a fit state to ring a doctor, or take herself to the hospital. ><
So I'm just stuck until he makes a decision, because I really don't know what he's playing at. And I'm sick of being at his mercy for living my life. She's his Mum too, and he should start to damn well act like it. ;_;
Why are siblings so bloody unhelpful? I've been looking after my Mum now since about July, when she got her Breast Cancer diagnosis, and have essentially been her carer since she started Chemo. I've had to sort the sickness, to give her meds, to clean up the mess, to make sure she eats, to be up half the night, to take her to appointments, to calm her down when she starts freaking out about her hair having fallen out… It's a full time job, and nowhere in all of this, has my brother done a single damn thing to help.
He just goes out with his friends, or buggers off to Huddersfield for weeks at a time so he doesn't have to deal with it - since he can't 'cope' with Mum being so ill. Yet at five months pregnant I apparently can?! I've let it slide for weeks now, because he was told from the very beginning that I was going away from the 25th to the 29th, and my Mum agreed that it was only fair to be given some degree of a break before I burn out.
Yet lo and behold, my *insert expletive here* brother, has now decided that he doesn't know if he's going to be at home, because he might go over to Hudds again. Thus meaning, no Expo, no break, no time to myself and no chance of regaining some shred of sanity - because unlike him, I do have a problem with leaving someone that clearly needs someone there, alone. What happens if her temp spikes to signal infection in someone with no immunity? I hardly think someone that struggles to get out of bed post Chemo is going to be in a fit state to ring a doctor, or take herself to the hospital. ><
So I'm just stuck until he makes a decision, because I really don't know what he's playing at. And I'm sick of being at his mercy for living my life. She's his Mum too, and he should start to damn well act like it. ;_;
Er, no you're not stuck until he makes a decision. Bloody well sit him down and tell him he's going to care for your mum for that one weekend whilst you're away, and that it's been planned for months and he knows this. How dare he? Your mum has two kids, not one, so he can help out too!
*hug* I hope he listens to reason. Could you get your mother to explain it to him as well? If he doesn't start understanding soon, he'll be in for a shock in a few month's time when at the very least you can't help your mother nearly as much, and perhaps will need some degree of looking-after yourself =/
