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18 Oct 2012 - 16:0092759
Quote Nymphie:
Why are siblings so bloody unhelpful? I've been looking after my Mum now since about July, when she got her Breast Cancer diagnosis, and have essentially been her carer since she started Chemo. I've had to sort the sickness, to give her meds, to clean up the mess, to make sure she eats, to be up half the night, to take her to appointments, to calm her down when she starts freaking out about her hair having fallen out… It's a full time job, and nowhere in all of this, has my brother done a single damn thing to help.

He just goes out with his friends, or buggers off to Huddersfield for weeks at a time so he doesn't have to deal with it - since he can't 'cope' with Mum being so ill. Yet at five months pregnant I apparently can?! I've let it slide for weeks now, because he was told from the very beginning that I was going away from the 25th to the 29th, and my Mum agreed that it was only fair to be given some degree of a break before I burn out.

Yet lo and behold, my *insert expletive here* brother, has now decided that he doesn't know if he's going to be at home, because he might go over to Hudds again. Thus meaning, no Expo, no break, no time to myself and no chance of regaining some shred of sanity - because unlike him, I do have a problem with leaving someone that clearly needs someone there, alone. What happens if her temp spikes to signal infection in someone with no immunity? I hardly think someone that struggles to get out of bed post Chemo is going to be in a fit state to ring a doctor, or take herself to the hospital. ><

So I'm just stuck until he makes a decision, because I really don't know what he's playing at. And I'm sick of being at his mercy for living my life. She's his Mum too, and he should start to damn well act like it. ;_;


Er, no you're not stuck until he makes a decision. Bloody well sit him down and tell him he's going to care for your mum for that one weekend whilst you're away, and that it's been planned for months and he knows this. How dare he? Your mum has two kids, not one, so he can help out too!


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18 Oct 2012 - 16:1092761
Quote NixieThePixie:

Er, no you're not stuck until he makes a decision. Bloody well sit him down and tell him he's going to care for your mum for that one weekend whilst you're away, and that it's been planned for months and he knows this. How dare he? Your mum has two kids, not one, so he can help out too!


Y'see, with a normal person that might actually work, but my brother being the person he is, telling him anything is liable to end up with him getting in the car and just driving off for…days, or someone, typically me, getting a smack. The latter he's mostly grown out of these days, but I'm still not inclined to push my luck. I really don't think he's going to listen, since I've already been chewed up and spat out today because he couldn't get his phone to work. Which is obviously my fault, just like the rain, and every ill fated thing in the world. ><

I'm going to try and find a contingency plan incase he does decide to be prat-of-the-week and abandon me to this again, because even if he does 'agree' there is still a strong possibility he'd decide halfway through he couldn't cope with it and still leave to his mate's house for the entirety of a day, and as much as I want to get out and escape for some degree of respite, I'd rather not take the risk unless I'm sure he's going to do what needs to be done at home.

I'll try sitting him down and telling him the score though, it's better than admitting defeat right?



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18 Oct 2012 - 16:3392767
Quote Nymphie:
Quote NixieThePixie:

Er, no you're not stuck until he makes a decision. Bloody well sit him down and tell him he's going to care for your mum for that one weekend whilst you're away, and that it's been planned for months and he knows this. How dare he? Your mum has two kids, not one, so he can help out too!


Y'see, with a normal person that might actually work, but my brother being the person he is, telling him anything is liable to end up with him getting in the car and just driving off for…days, or someone, typically me, getting a smack. The latter he's mostly grown out of these days, but I'm still not inclined to push my luck. I really don't think he's going to listen, since I've already been chewed up and spat out today because he couldn't get his phone to work. Which is obviously my fault, just like the rain, and every ill fated thing in the world. ><

I'm going to try and find a contingency plan incase he does decide to be prat-of-the-week and abandon me to this again, because even if he does 'agree' there is still a strong possibility he'd decide halfway through he couldn't cope with it and still leave to his mate's house for the entirety of a day, and as much as I want to get out and escape for some degree of respite, I'd rather not take the risk unless I'm sure he's going to do what needs to be done at home.

I'll try sitting him down and telling him the score though, it's better than admitting defeat right?


What an irresponsible little toe-rag. Sorry, this is might sound judgmental but who let him get away with acting like that?

be diplomatic? Say, look, you've been looking after your mum completely, and it's just four days he needs to do it for. It's not long. Although, you may be able to see if you can get a nurse from the NHS to help out, or something.

I don't know if you already do so, but Macmillan has a carer support service and groups, maybe email/contact them to get help for you as well.


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18 Oct 2012 - 16:3592768
Isabela: Sounds like that seller is taking the mick. Name and shame them as publically as possible XD

Nymphie: Firstly I'm sorry to hear about your mother and hope it all goes well. I'm even more sorry to hear your bother is being so uncaring about the whole thing *hug* I hope he listens to reason. Could you get your mother to explain it to him as well? If he doesn't start understanding soon, he'll be in for a shock in a few month's time when at the very least you can't help your mother nearly as much, and perhaps will need some degree of looking-after yourself =/
I really hope it goes well getting him to listen. By the way, if you ever want to chat about this or completely random stuff to help keep you sane, I'm always around - I know we haven't spoken much since last expo.


19 Oct 2012 - 07:4292787
Nymphie, I sort of understand your predicament. My old lady isn't well, though her condition is of the mind she still needs looking after. My father drinks himself into depression and is pretty useless at anything and for a while my brother didn't do much whilst I held down a full time job and looked after mother the best I could whilst she was breaking down with dementia.

But my sister is moving back home and my brother is picking up the slack now. Though he wouldn't dissappear for days at a time, and his presence alone was good enough so mother wouldn't forget we've grown up.

However if I had to offer advice, I wish I could offer positive sentiments. All I can do is assist in bracing you for when it gets worse. I waited for the longest time thinking that I could manage without anything the NHS could offer, thinking it would be a sign of weakness to leave it to someone else. I almost burned out that way, and I suggest you seek as much help as you can, you'll need it all. As for your brother, if he is useless and old enough to drive and go where he wishes, must he live in the same house too? With the option of getting kicked out, he may sort his game out. Yes, he is selfish and arrogant and when your mother gets better I don't think she'll want to help him out in his times of need. Look into how the law sees his actions if he chooses to be violent, and treat him as you would a problem child like you see on those supernanny programs.

I wish you and your mother all the best, I can see you're a very kind person but sometimes that's not enough to do what's best for everyone. Sometimes you need to be harsh and calculative, because he poses a problem you can do without and the sooner you solve that problem the more energy you can put towards your mother and more importantly; you.


21 Oct 2012 - 17:0792883
Previous owner really fucked me over on my car, so now I'll be taking him to court. That is all. I don't know how to rant very well ^_^


21 Oct 2012 - 22:1592901
Urgh, I still haven't gotten around to sorting out my wig. My mum's not going to be able to help me now, either. I'm scared i'm gonna cut the fringe wrong and it'll look atrocious. Just sayin'.


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22 Oct 2012 - 09:2392913
Overslept this morning. Some idiots alarm has been going off all morning. Kept me up...

Also, the sword for my Kirito costume isn't going well. It seems to need alot more glue than I thought it would. This could take days or weeks now. Maybe I watered the PVA down too much...


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22 Oct 2012 - 13:4492920
I feel my dressform is a waste of money;

It's either too big or too small. I have yet to encounter someone which is can either expand or contract to be for. It's very irritating.


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23 Oct 2012 - 11:0792985
Cruuuuuuuud. I've caught the nasties. Due to the nature of my throat hurting and my neck swelling I think it's glandular - well. Okay there's the fact that there was a major tip off that a girl in my new class had glandular fever who recently came back as I joined, and I've been quite close. In a conversation she said that I was very likely to get it again seeing as I had it when I was small.

It's just incredibly irritating that this happens before every fricking event that I want to go to! At Kitacon I was feeling awful leading up to it, and when everyone was hung over and tired on Sunday, I was actually feeling the best I had that week! I really dont want to feel crappy as I'm meeting some new friends. The last thing I want is to give them this. So it now hurts to swallow and I'm worried I'm going to get some hell for not going into uni from my mum. I dont think my brother has bothered to go in but thats a separate thing entirely.


23 Oct 2012 - 12:0692988
Angel tear: I hope you feel better soon

I'm also catching stuff just before expo it seems - still got all the problems I complained of last time but now also have a stomach bug I'm really hoping I feel well enough to go to expo...


23 Oct 2012 - 12:3392990
Thank you! I took the day off (still working at home though) so that I stand a chance of not dying on my feet over the weekend. I just hope I can finish these costumes too u.u


24 Oct 2012 - 16:0893058
It feels like nothing is going right at the moment...
All the previous shit is still going on and I'm feeling really left out and lone right now. I really don't feel very motivated to do anything...


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26 Oct 2012 - 21:3093142
I'm going to be at expo by myself as far as I know. I forgot to check what day my friends are going. Their going on Saturday I'm going Sunday.


29 Oct 2012 - 23:0093208
I posted some pics of my Serah cosplay on my deviantart account and instantly got trolls posting hurtful comments on them. My response? Leave my pics up, report the trolls for spamming and disable comments on my pictures. Screw you trolls! Your nasty comments wont stop me from cosplaying or posting pics of my cosplays online! All these nasty pathetic individuals wanted was for me to retaliate and post comments back, but I refused to lower myself to their level and instead stopped them from bring able to post any more nasty comments.


30 Oct 2012 - 08:4293217
Yep everything has now gone to shit...

The cheery on the shit Sundae that is my life right now is that my hours are being zeroed down again... Just in time for Christmas. No money, great...


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02 Nov 2012 - 17:1593378
I ordered a gorgeous parka all the way from China about two months ago so it would get here by the time it gets cold. But it still hasn't arrived. -_-
Petty i know, but it's still annoying


02 Nov 2012 - 18:1493383
Quote yumcarrots:
I posted some pics of my Serah cosplay on my deviantart account and instantly got trolls posting hurtful comments on them. My response? Leave my pics up, report the trolls for spamming and disable comments on my pictures. Screw you trolls! Your nasty comments wont stop me from cosplaying or posting pics of my cosplays online! All these nasty pathetic individuals wanted was for me to retaliate and post comments back, but I refused to lower myself to their level and instead stopped them from bring able to post any more nasty comments.


Your Serah looks great though!


05 Nov 2012 - 20:3293503
OK, now I'm sure. Everyone hates me. I think I have maybe one person but I think her patience is wearing thin. I get blocked by before I even know they have an account. I get left out of everything. I'm no good for anyone or anything...


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05 Nov 2012 - 20:4693505
People who lie really annoy me! gahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh


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05 Nov 2012 - 23:1693524
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OK, now I'm sure. Everyone hates me. I think I have maybe one person but I think her patience is wearing thin. I get blocked by before I even know they have an account. I get left out of everything. I'm no good for anyone or anything...


You're getting a few immature people badmouthing you and pre-warning others. It's not nice, because you're made out to be some kind of monster and you wish you were that cool.

I don't even defend you, because it's pointless. Everyone wants someone to hate and once they've got a target they want to indulge in pre-judging you. But I do try to tell everyone to calm the hell down and that you're an alright guy, even though you're an ass online sometimes.

Even though you're cynical as fuck and hilariously annoying at times, you're not that bad. One of my mates is even more depressing than you'll ever wish to be and he's not in your predicament. His difference is that he has mates who don't drama-llama about every little thing.

What I don't get is why no-one just calms the fuck down. There are much MUCH more annoying people than you (I'm one of them, trust me ;D) and they get by fine.

Wanna know what I think you should do? Get an old used chequebook and scribble "Fuckbook" on it. Then carry it around, and whenever this shit comes up, proclaim how you have no fucks to give. You're all out of fucks. You wish you could, maybe there's some in the back, oh look there's none! No fucks here, better order some more but it might take a while.

And so on.



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06 Nov 2012 - 08:2193532
Quote JaeXD:
Quote Ice-climber:
OK, now I'm sure. Everyone hates me. I think I have maybe one person but I think her patience is wearing thin. I get blocked by before I even know they have an account. I get left out of everything. I'm no good for anyone or anything...


You're getting a few immature people badmouthing you and pre-warning others. It's not nice, because you're made out to be some kind of monster and you wish you were that cool.

I don't even defend you, because it's pointless. Everyone wants someone to hate and once they've got a target they want to indulge in pre-judging you. But I do try to tell everyone to calm the hell down and that you're an alright guy, even though you're an ass online sometimes.

Even though you're cynical as fuck and hilariously annoying at times, you're not that bad. One of my mates is even more depressing than you'll ever wish to be and he's not in your predicament. His difference is that he has mates who don't drama-llama about every little thing.

What I don't get is why no-one just calms the fuck down. There are much MUCH more annoying people than you (I'm one of them, trust me ;D) and they get by fine.

Wanna know what I think you should do? Get an old used chequebook and scribble "Fuckbook" on it. Then carry it around, and whenever this shit comes up, proclaim how you have no fucks to give. You're all out of fucks. You wish you could, maybe there's some in the back, oh look there's none! No fucks here, better order some more but it might take a while.

And so on.


You mind PMing me names? I have suspicions that need to confirmed.

Where's that Spiderman pic?


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06 Nov 2012 - 09:4893537
Quote Ice-climber:


You mind PMing me names? I have suspicions that need to confirmed.

Where's that Spiderman pic?


I'd rather not, partly because I don't take notice of them as they're generally friends of friends.

Also I'd prefer not to get involved in these childish games.



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07 Nov 2012 - 08:2693580
I have a list of 10 different people who have contacted me since Expo about having custom items made, but not a single one has paid yet. I'm sat in front of my sewing machine waiting and waiting for that person to crack and pay me so I can get started......


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07 Nov 2012 - 12:1793592
Quote J-Po:
People who lie really annoy me! gahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh


Do you know what I hate more than people who just lie?

People who lie about things it's trivially easy for me doublecheck. It just insults my intelligence!


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