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17 Jun 2011 - 23:4260465
My personal feelings on it:




24 Jun 2011 - 09:2661169
Free huggers really are in a mind set of their own and are by and large younger members of the cosplay/anime/manga/con going society.

I've been hugged by younger girls in their early teens and at 23 yrs old its hard to not feel a bit strange and as if its kinda wrong =/ So generally i try to avoid the situation as best as possible xD

Free huggers aside, I have been hugged by some really random and strange people whilst in cosplay. If im cosplaying as a character you like/love and which to give me a hug, im cool with that.

However...I get a bit freaked out when the hug becomes a "No im not actually letting you go now...."

This happened whilst i was cosplaying Wakka >.< some random guy hugged me and would not let go xD I thought he was joking...he really wasnt 0.0

Luckily im a jovial fella and just laughed it afterwards but you can't help but feel a bit weird and kinda sad for the person =/


24 Jun 2011 - 11:5761177
10 minutes into my first ever Expo this May, I was hugged by 5 ladies all at once.

I felt violated haha. Actually it was a pleasant surprise.

(*Disclaimer* warriorteddy does not condone hugs without consent)


24 Jun 2011 - 13:4861184
As I spend a great deal of my time covered in fake blood, which is wet and sticky and red and impossible to get out of your clothes... I tend to say no, often simply because you probably don't want fake blood all over your white costume guys. Common sense please and thank you.

I also hate the abuse when you say no, or, in one case, when a massively obese American guy wearing a carpet and who stank like he'd never showered ever, hurled abuse at me before I even got a chance to say no because I hadn't actually heard what he'd said and my reply was "Huh?" and I was most confused until a nearby friend explained what had occurred. At least let me say no before you call me a fridgid biatch.

Also, kids, I am in my 20's, many of you are underage, and although I look a mere slip of a 14-year-old boy, I am in fact neither of these things. It makes me feel like a creepy pedo hugging strange children I have never met before.

One group of free huggers took it even further a few Expos ago and Yaoi paddled my twin in the spine; he couldn't breathe for a good few minutes and almost vomitted. Those things are wooden and tbh should be classed as a dangerous weapon. Needless to say, I do not like free huggers.

If you come over, ask me politely using your ability to converse like a human being and I am not painted green or covered in something sticky and noxious or wearing something in which it is physically impossible to hug without maiming you, myself or my costume in some way then, in all likelyhood I will allow you to hug me. If you wander over (most likely dresses as L or a Narutoes), shove a badly spelled sign in my face and then just stare at me for 5 minutes whilst breathing heavily and saying nothing. Probably not going to get you a hug tbh.


24 Jun 2011 - 14:4961190
Quote Numta3:
However...I get a bit freaked out when the hug becomes a "No im not actually letting you go now...."

This happened whilst i was cosplaying Wakka >.< some random guy hugged me and would not let go xD I thought he was joking...he really wasnt 0.0


Uurg that happened to me at this years Minami... was in my Snubbull gijinka costume and a dude came up like "Youre so cute, can I hug you?" "Yeah sure :3" *hugs... doesnt let go... picks me up and tries to walk off* and Im like AHHWTFPUTMEDOWN ; ;

More a generic hug story than a free-hug-sign story just thought I'd throw it in anyway XD


27 Jun 2011 - 18:2761500
I don't really have a problem with people who have free hug signs, it's usually the ones with the obscure yaoi/yuri, free sex, etc signs that creep me out. Though as some others in this thread have said it's not always the ones that have the signs that you need to look out for. I'm generally a huggy person and if asked I will give people a hug. However due to a bad experience I've basically decided never to hug anyone at Expo or anywhere (sign or no sign) unless I know them in some way.

Was at Oct Expo 2010 dressed in my Celty costume and a guy asked nicely for a hug. So I gave him a hug (he seemed nice enough) suddenly I was hoisted up in the air and he basically rubbed me all over my body and rubbed me against his. I was so shocked I didn't know what to do. He put me back down and ran off somewhere pretty fast. Never had I felt so violated in my life.


27 Jun 2011 - 18:4361503
Quote Osanpo:
I don't really have a problem with people who have free hug signs, it's usually the ones with the obscure yaoi/yuri, free sex, etc signs that creep me out. Though as some others in this thread have said it's not always the ones that have the signs that you need to look out for. I'm generally a huggy person and if asked I will give people a hug. However due to a bad experience I've basically decided never to hug anyone at Expo or anywhere (sign or no sign) unless I know them in some way.

Was at Oct Expo 2010 dressed in my Celty costume and a guy asked nicely for a hug. So I gave him a hug (he seemed nice enough) suddenly I was hoisted up in the air and he basically rubbed me all over my body and rubbed me against his. I was so shocked I didn't know what to do. He put me back down and ran off somewhere pretty fast. Never had I felt so violated in my life.


That sounds horrid! I'm not surprised!!


And I is liking you're avatar - it's the same one I deposited in the happy thread lol


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27 Jun 2011 - 18:5061505
When people hug and hurt your ribs and even when you say "Youre hurting me pleaselet me go" they don't. That's the type i hate. A while ago i was at con and a few days later i was going to go in for an operation about my general chest area and this guy said my cosplay was cool and could he have a hug, fair enough but i told him to be careful of my ribs so he lifts me up and nearly crushes my ribs. That really p****s me off especially when i asked specifically for him to be careful.


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27 Jun 2011 - 19:4961517
Quote NixieThePixie:


That sounds horrid! I'm not surprised!!


And I is liking you're avatar - it's the same one I deposited in the happy thread lol


Aye it was but never again!

And thanks I got it originally off a Final Fantasy XI site in one of the forums there. There's something quite hypnotic watching Sephiroth run like that. XD

Quote Crap Rocket Red:
When people hug and hurt your ribs and even when you say "Youre hurting me pleaselet me go" they don't. That's the type i hate. A while ago i was at con and a few days later i was going to go in for an operation about my general chest area and this guy said my cosplay was cool and could he have a hug, fair enough but i told him to be careful of my ribs so he lifts me up and nearly crushes my ribs. That really p****s me off especially when i asked specifically for him to be careful.


That sounds very painful. Were you alright afterwards?


27 Jun 2011 - 20:5061528
It hurt and i shouted after but yeah i was ok It's just the pure ignorance that angered me.


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27 Jun 2011 - 21:1261531
Wow, I didn't think people hated them this much.
If you ask me, free hug signs are all in fun and spirit. The people who hold them are usually really friendly and I loved going over to the people who had them at the expo because they just looked so huggable with their signs ^^.
Plus, when you first arrive at a convention, it takes a while to get into them and meet people, free hug signs seem to speed that process up and you get to meet alot more people ^^
I have never done a free hug sign before yet I want to. I'm not the type of free hugger who will advertise that fact at the top of my voice though, i'de rather let the people come over to me
As for glomps, i think they are so funny xD


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27 Jun 2011 - 21:2061532
well for me personally, I am quite neutral about free hug signs.
Yes it make people happy, it's a good way of talking and communicating with other and may potentionally be a future friend.

It doesn't really bother me at all really but I can't think of negative opinions about this topic though,

but I don't really hug someone unless they open up there arms first for some reason xD


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27 Jun 2011 - 21:2061533
Quote gbow:
Wow, I didn't think people hated them this much.
If you ask me, free hug signs are all in fun and spirit. The people who hold them are usually really friendly and I loved going over to the people who had them at the expo because they just looked so huggable with their signs ^^.
Plus, when you first arrive at a convention, it takes a while to get into them and meet people, free hug signs seem to speed that process up and you get to meet alot more people ^^
I have never done a free hug sign before yet I want to. I'm not the type of free hugger who will advertise that fact at the top of my voice though, i'de rather let the people come over to me
As for glomps, i think they are so funny xD



wow we think the same !!!!


28 Jun 2011 - 13:5061577
You go to enough conventions and expos, you've seen it all before.


Free huggers are a lot like elitist right-wing capitalists who try to come across as equal rights freedom fighting hippies, but do so very very badly.

You see the message they promote is about giving away something nice for free.. but what they want is to look fun in front of everyone, for the attention, very much like those who hold up the sign that says "The Game". Oh how very LOL of you, re-using a dead meme from a dying board you're far too young to understand fully because you missed it in its heyday. Selfish agenda; great way to meet people? Go set yourself on fire. A good idea spawns more good ideas, what comes after free hug signs? Think about that as you lose the ability to make conversation as you become dependant on signs.

They say free hugs for all.. yet on the other side of the sign "except for you". Your true colours are showing, fire is the cure.

They get nasty when refused. I haven't read a testimony of one free hugger who has gone "aww well you have a nice day anyway!" when refused. What the hell do they prepare for? Getting what they want all day?

Like someone here said, it's mostly the younger ones. Hence its all so childish;
"I want"
"I don't like you"
"Don't want that one".
"Want it now"

At one point in my life I'd ask for hugs too. My MO was a little different, I'd walk up to groups and announce I was ready to be hugged, give it a couple of seconds and wait for the inevitable lynching. I didn't really develop a clause for if that didn't work because it always did. But those who we are talking about aren't able to handle rejection by the sounds of it, yet are willing to dish it out.

And this:

Quote ammersXamphetamine:
but I don't really hug someone unless they open up there arms first for some reason xD


Is so damn cute I've never been able to refuse it.

Little girls do this to me a lot, probably due to the fact I know a lot of girls and I'm a tall guy. Wanna know how to not feel so creepy about it? Hug them properly you idiots, don't pick them up, don't go rigid (in the spine ¬_¬) and watch where your hands are going. One hand on the lower back and one on the shoulderblade, lean in, a tiny little bit of a squeeze and release. Takes less than a second, literally.

It's a bit stupid when guys think "if I hug her really hard she'll see how strong I am and think I'm attractive". Yeah, see how far that'll get you mate.


29 Jun 2011 - 16:1861728
Personally I m all good with people wearing signs.
Seeing as then people who want to get a free hug can go up and ask.
What I don't like is when they demand or yell abuse when one says no.
Also I do not agree with the signs about yaoi or money.
Free hugs are fine if you ask/just have the sign/be friendly even if they say no.
But most of the people now days have taken a nice friendly getting to know someone thing and took it too far!


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29 Jun 2011 - 16:2961735
Quote gbow:
As for glomps, i think they are so funny xD


...

So

Much

Rage...

Ok, I'm calming down...have you read through the thread and why these are BAD?


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29 Jun 2011 - 17:1961742
I have yet to see an explanation as to who Hugs is and why we should free him (or her).


29 Jun 2011 - 17:2961744
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Quote Pez:


Expo's just getting out of hand really. At the most recent Expo, on Sunday when everything was starting to wind down, I saw some guy walking around stark naked, holding all his clothes. He was coming out from the area with the trees next to the river. Those weren't exactly dense trees but I had no idea where he came from before that or when he was stripped. Anyway, he only started getting dressed again when he was in the pavement area between the trees and the statue.




Oh my god what? WHY WAS HE NAKED?! what did he do? oh god!

Thats creeeeeppppyyyyyy.


ewwwwwwwwwww - nasty - i second this question why was he naked - im pretty sure thats not cosplay lol


I hope the police weren't around when they saw him! XD


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29 Jun 2011 - 17:3061745
I wonder how counter signs would go down.

'Free flash kick if I see a free hugs sign'

*Plays Guile's Theme*

On a serious note. They are a teeny fad. Every single one I've seen have been held by under 18 weebs looking for acceptence.

I personally think a hug is a step in a gesture of friendship. I have friends that I don't hug simply because I don't know them well enough and therefore don't deserve a hug. Where as there are others that I hug excessively...

Hugs shouldn't be 'a way in' with someone. It should be earned through actually growing a pair and communicating with people, getting to know them beforehand. If you are too shy to actually do something you want to do, then you need to put yourself in an uncomfortable position to get what you want not through cheap gimmicks. I was shy and reclusive a few years ago but I did stuff the hard way and came out the other side slightly more sociable and approachable and personally feel better because of it. Maybe I'm just old fashioned though. ¬_¬


29 Jun 2011 - 18:2361753
Personally, im not all that bothered about people walking around with hug signs..... as long as they dont glomp me and try and force a hug onto me.
I have helped one of my friends make a hug sign, but she didnt go around jumping on people or forcing it in their faces.

And the whole thing with the Free Yaoi/Butsex/rape/all the others, is highly disturbing... i mean why would you even want to walk around with that on a sign. Sure i like yaoi, but i dont want you doing it infront of me, its just weird :/

The only thing i really dont like, is when i dont know that someone is going to hug me e.g. i didnt see then coming or they did it from behind. I have a weird thing were i dont like people touching me when i dont know about it. My friends i dont mind, because im close with them, but when some random person come's up to me and hugs me without even saying anything first, there is just something that doesnt feel right D:

If they ask me before hand, im not bothered really (unless they seem, really creepy D: ) and ive never really had any abuse from free huggers or anything. Well thats mainly because im quite a shy person who wont go near people even if i like their cosplay =w= Ill just sit from afar and be like 'Oh wow! Have you seen that cosplay!!! !' So yeah ^^


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29 Jun 2011 - 22:4961772
Quote KuroOkaeshi:
Personally, im not all that bothered about people walking around with hug signs..... as long as they dont glomp me and try and force a hug onto me.
I have helped one of my friends make a hug sign, but she didnt go around jumping on people or forcing it in their faces.

And the whole thing with the Free Yaoi/Butsex/rape/all the others, is highly disturbing... i mean why would you even want to walk around with that on a sign. Sure i like yaoi, but i dont want you doing it infront of me, its just weird :/

The only thing i really dont like, is when i dont know that someone is going to hug me e.g. i didnt see then coming or they did it from behind. I have a weird thing were i dont like people touching me when i dont know about it. My friends i dont mind, because im close with them, but when some random person come's up to me and hugs me without even saying anything first, there is just something that doesnt feel right D:

If they ask me before hand, im not bothered really (unless they seem, really creepy D: ) and ive never really had any abuse from free huggers or anything. Well thats mainly because im quite a shy person who wont go near people even if i like their cosplay =w= Ill just sit from afar and be like 'Oh wow! Have you seen that cosplay!!! !' So yeah ^^
Haha, don't worry I'm actually the same way. I have no problem with people hugging me, as long as they ask me/I ask them then 99% of the time I'll do it. I just really freak the hell out if someone just comes up behind me and pretty much tries to assassinate me by crushing my ribs or something.

Yeah, to be honest I'm still not so sure... A lot of people are bashing people with signs. Don't get me wrong, I'd get pissed off if I asked someone with a sign for a hug and they just said "NOT YOU!" ) :< but I have chatted to a few people with signs who were genuinely nice and spontanious.

I don't like bashing people... But to be honest I can't really say I've had any bad experiences like that at cons so far. Most of the time my hugs usually occur when I ask someone for a photo and we have a little chat or something. But yeah, I'm always giving people good feedback on their outfits so I think that gets me hugged a fair amount. XD

ANYWAY, I think you can't really stereotype. (If you ask me, if you stereotype people with signs, you're just as bad as people who stereotype cosplayers in general.) But yeah, I agree you don't NEED a sign to get to know people at all... But it can help! XD


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30 Jun 2011 - 09:4661798
Quote Han Hyuga:

ANYWAY, I think you can't really stereotype. (If you ask me, if you stereotype people with signs, you're just as bad as people who stereotype cosplayers in general.)


Those who pick up a sign stereotype themselves.


30 Jun 2011 - 11:3461807
Quote JaeXD:
Quote Han Hyuga:

ANYWAY, I think you can't really stereotype. (If you ask me, if you stereotype people with signs, you're just as bad as people who stereotype cosplayers in general.)


Those who pick up a sign stereotype themselves.


Everyone stereotypes whether they mean to or not.

If you have bad experiences with free huggers 99 times and you then aren't wary of free hugger 100, that's foolish IMO.


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30 Jun 2011 - 12:1261812
Stereotypes have only failed me once when this guy who looked like a total jacknut douche with fancy hair, fake tan and those low cut V necks all the trendy prats wear these days was talking to me at a party when he suddenly came out with how he went to see Slipknot last night and we had an awesome conversation about metal bands. The rest of the time I've been spot on about people based on stereotypes.

Also I can tell a lot about a person based on what shoes they wear.


30 Jun 2011 - 14:4561835
Im not a hug kind of person when friends/family are upset and crying I just stand there with a look on my face I don't know what to do my mind tells me to hug them but my limbs freeze. If someone asks for a hug depends on my mood I could agree or turn them down and if I agree I get a wierd feeling.
I agree with Ozzie I would have to know you on a personal level for me to feel comfortable with hugs and even then it's not often.
This rule doesn't count with partners im not that cold


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