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29 Apr 2009 - 11:3913629
When I first mentioned it to my mum, she was totally fine with it XD I was looking around eBay for a costume to wear to my first expo, and her reaction was "I could make it for a lot cheaper than that!", and so, she did XD She made my first three cosplays for me, but since then she's been a lot stricter on my sister and I, and her view is that if we want cosplays now, we have to make them ourselves, haha. But I think that's good - We're both capable of it, and she's always around to help us if we mess up too.

It's pretty awesome though - She knows the names of all the characters that my sister and I cosplay, and can pick them out in a video game that we're playing too. She's very supportive of what we do, and as long as we pay for everything out of our own pockets, she's happy for us to keep going.

My dad doesn't really give us much input, just says that he likes the finished thing when he sees it XD


29 Apr 2009 - 14:2713639
I can't imagine how much hell it would be if your parents disapprove of it! I really dont see the basis behind it because by cosplaying you're learning useful skills and it's a much safer hobby then like...going out and getting drunk every night and doing drugs...amirite?

My parents are totally fine with it, my dad doesn't show a ton of interest but it's not like he forbids me from doing it, he'll look at con pictures. My mum is totally supportive too, encouraging me to make cosplay scrap books to show my future kids! XDD I don't get any physical help with cosplay cause neither of them can sew or anything, but it's nice to know that I dont have to hide a hobby that i'm so passionate about. O.O (The only thing I don't go a GREAT deal into is the whole cost side of things. XD No reason to really. XP)



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29 Apr 2009 - 15:4913647
My mum don't care as long as it isn't too revealing or expensive. She even tries to help me!


30 Apr 2009 - 00:0413678
Well, most of you know my mum's fine with it since she comes to cons with me and i've managed to get her to cosplay a couple of times. I think I've turned her into an anime fan too LOL she likes Naruto, Fruits Basket and Cardcaptors XD She can't sew or make props but she looks around shops for me to find stuff that might be useful.
Dad doesn't really care, although I do have pictures of him trying on two of my wigs (one in particular being my bright pink Sakura one lol)
The only thing they hate tho is the amount I spend on my costumes -_-

The rest of my family are confused by it and I get interesting reactions from them XD just the other day I was wearing my sharingan lenses cause i wanted dad to get pics of my Tobi cosplay (since I forgot to bring the wig with me at Kita) and my cousins girlfriend turned up to borrow a watering can. She though the lenses were freaky and her baby just stared at me lol my other cousin does recognise certain characters, we played Naruto on the xbox and she commented on Itachi saying 'that's the coat you have isn't it?'
My aunt is interesting in that I showed her a photo online of my friends fairy cosplay (from Tinkerbell) and she was trying to get her grandkids to 'come see the pretty fairy' ^^; I think they're mostly amused by it all and think my cosplays are cool. They disaprove of some of the con photo's i showed them tho (one involving sqeezing kuroi-ryu's fake boobs)


30 Apr 2009 - 00:2813681
my parents have mixed feelings really. they seem to like and appreciate my work, saying how great they think it is, and how talented i am, and all the usual stuff parents say.

the only problem they have in when i walk around in public in cosplay, and they are always telling me ill get beaten up (to be fair, living near to the Hull council estates, its a fair point XD). they also complain when i leave my sewing machine out on the table, and if i leave costume parts out for longer than a few minutes.


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30 Apr 2009 - 01:1313683
My parents know how weird I am so I don't think it surprised them XD They're not particularly helpful but they don't seem to mind listening to updates every now and then and seeing the finished article.


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03 May 2009 - 19:4113821
Being 24 years old *gulp*, I honestly think that my parents opinions matter little to me anymore. However my mum has pretty much always been nothing but supportive with cosplay. Shes much better at sewing than I am so that comes in handy, and shes fascinated by con pictures. My Dad is also very cool about it, he always takes a real interest and looks through all my pictures when I get back from a con. My mums husband on the other hand is less than supportive. His general opinion is that I need to grow up and fast. Even though I have a full time job and support myself, he still seems to think its perfectly acceptable to treat me like a 6 year old and constantly criticise me. He informed me a few weeks ago that if I was ever attacked because of the way I look/dress then in his opinion I'd fully deserve it . . . not a nice fellow. But at least my real parents are nice, caring, supportive people.


03 May 2009 - 20:4613826
my parents don't allow it which is fun ¬¬

they think i'm "weird enough as it is"

if they find anythinmg in my room they don't like they will throw it out, no matter how expensive or time consuming to make it was D<

i literally have to hide EVERYTHING in a rucksack so i tend to store everything at my partners house so it's very difficult to tweak things when i want seeing as she lives across the country



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03 May 2009 - 21:0113827
When I first started cosplaying both my parents hated me doing so as they thought I was making a fool of myself.

After a while my Mum realised how much it meant to me and started helping me with my costumes.
It's only in the last few months my Dad is starting to get used to it.


03 May 2009 - 21:5113832
My dad sees it as an excuse for someone to stab me, same if I go out dressed all "gothy" *sigh*


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03 May 2009 - 23:0813840
My parents, mum especially, loves it. We're going to be taking over half of the house next year and we've converting the smaller bedroom into a wigs and cosplay room!


04 May 2009 - 01:2613841
Quote Marauchettes:
if they find anythinmg in my room they don't like they will throw it out, no matter how expensive or time consuming to make it was D<

I just had a quick look at your profile and I notice that you're 18. Since this makes you a legal adult, I would have thought (although don't quote me on this) that your parents entering your room and destroying your property was just a bit illegal. At the very least, it's enormously disrespectful.


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04 May 2009 - 01:4113842
My parents are cool with it, my dad shows an interest. My mum on the other hand is a bit annoying with how much interest she tries to show, and how much advice she tries to give - it's not that I don't appreciate it, but she doesn't understand why you can't just cobble something together with whatever colours of material. She doesn't really understand why I want to invest so much time, money and effort into it.


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04 May 2009 - 11:1013850
Quote Sillabub:
Quote Marauchettes:
if they find anythinmg in my room they don't like they will throw it out, no matter how expensive or time consuming to make it was D<

I just had a quick look at your profile and I notice that you're 18. Since this makes you a legal adult, I would have thought (although don't quote me on this) that your parents entering your room and destroying your property was just a bit illegal. At the very least, it's enormously disrespectful.


ha tell me about it..
ah well uni soon
staying in the halls of residence so no more of that =3


04 May 2009 - 15:0513859
My parents tend to not mind, although this time because of GCSEs i was technically not supposed to be cosplaying for May expo. Ironic that this seems to be the cosplay I've put the MOST effort into doing then...
My dad just lols at me most of the time, especially if I wander around the house looking for a camera in some bizzare outfit XD Mum is usually very supportive although she does get annoyed that I steal her sewing machine, and she's all 'GRR YOU WILL STUDY BEFORE COSPLAYING' at the moment >.<
As for stuff they've disapproved of, I haven't shown them Dita or the whole of Zhen Ji (actually mum came across a reference of Zhen Ji, and I was like 'its only the coat that I'm making! The rest is from a different version!' XD
And I lie if I spend a lot of money on a cosplay...if they knew how much I really spend on a costume they would probably go crazy XD


04 May 2009 - 16:3613867
My dad wants to cosplay with me, and he always supports me when he can with various emergency trips to the DIY store or if he finds something useful. He has a myriad of catalogues that he used to use for DIY and knows his stuff as an electronic engineer so if I have any questions about logistics or electric bits, or stability/robust-ness I know I can go to him. He also subsidises my conventions trips until I pay him back. Generally, he's one cool cookie when it comes to cosplay and nothing surprises him now. He didn't even quibble about Fran ("you're 18, do what you want! ^^ ". I guess it helps that he likes anime and video games and knows the characters I cosplay generally.

My mum is a tougher case. She loves the costuming and that I've found something that I love to do but I don't think she quite understands it like my dad does. She doesn't say anything, but sometimes you can read a persons face and hers often says "you're an alien". It's not terrible, but it's disheartening sometimes to realise that you've just been excited babbling about your latest project and in fact the parental you're talking to isn't listening one bit ><

Generally my parents are supportive of me and cosplay though, so I don't have any quibbles ^___^


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04 May 2009 - 17:1813868
My parents are reasonably supportive/indifferent! They don't mind or ask how much I spend, they don't mind me doing it, they don't care about revealing/controversial costumes (Nazi! Shiki XD). They're usually interested to see con photos, although I tend to edit out any fanservice/purely lulzworthy ones as a matter of principle - although probably I care more than they do! I sometimes ask them for advice on making/obtaining things - they both offered assistance with my first Trinity Blood rosary (the demon of a thousand versions).

And both of them love dressing up, given the excuse, so they can hardly complain!

I like showing my grandmother con pictures because she absolutely refuses to believe that me in a wig is me, especially if it's blonde, and even if said wig has been shown to her!



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07 May 2009 - 10:3814066
My mum is ok about it most of the time, the other day she even painted my Midna bodysuit for me! But sometimes she uses it as a weapon to piss me off sometimes which is really annoying. She gets irritated if i make a mess but if I clean up and hoover up random bits of thread I seem to manage to trek around the house she doesn't mind.

I've got a daft photo of her in one of my wigs...that was weird.

Her partner is a good laugh over it, he likes to pretend he knows what I'm talking about and pretends he knows his way around a sewing machine, once again he tried my wigs on as well which is kind of weird but funny. The Rinoa one actually suited him lol.

My Dad...well he's a different matter, he calls me 'Nerdo' and doesn't really get why I do it but otherwise he's not so bad about it although if he sees me in any of it he pretends like he doesn't know me. But I try not to let that bother me really.


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07 May 2009 - 14:4214073
my mum thought it was a bit weird but didnt have a problem with it. my dad on the other hand thought it was weird i was even going to a convention

he doesnt know anything about my cosplaying and i definatly didnt tell him i spent most of the weekend at minamicon crossplaying


17 May 2009 - 12:5814512
I'm one of those lucky people with parents who adore the fact that I cosplay. They don't even blink when my hair colour changes about six times in one day as I run about the house sewing. XD

I really feel for you guys who don't have supportive parents. I hope they manage to 'see the light' soon! 8D


17 May 2009 - 16:5914519
my parents are okay with it, but they try to tell me to change the costume a bit or to buy things that look 'similar' XD my mum doesnt aprove of some cosplays and tells me no way am i doing them
but she takes me fabric shopping and helps me with patterns, what fabric to use and if i go wrong with something, she'll try and help.
my dad accepts it and even brought a wig for me without saying anything bad :3
i think my parents just accept the fact and nerdy and don't really mind


17 May 2009 - 17:3514520
My mum's really interested in Cosplay, and usually comes to Cons with me. She's really supportive and sometimes even puts money towards patterns, fabris, little things like that.

My dad on the other hand, ISN'T so supportive. He always moans when I need to purchase something like a wig off eBay, so I now get my mum to buy things for me.


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18 May 2009 - 09:2614537
I love these threads, gives me an excuse to rant about how ridiculously against it my parents are~

Anyway, here's a story to make you appreciate having supportive parents:

The first time I ever cosplayed and my mum found out (because we won prizes and I had to explain a bag of DVDs) I told my mum someone from my friend's group had to drop out, so I just wore the costume. She wasn't happy, since she wasn't happy with me going to the con in the first place, but it went down ok (I only got to go to the con because it was my best friend's birthday trip).

Started cosplay again this year, since I'm on a gap year (away from home mind you, parents are in france) so I thought "Hey, they'll never find out!". But some idiot tagged a photo of me on facebook, which my mother saw (she has facebook only to keep an eye out for what I'm up to DX ), and I had to listen to an hour rant on how "that kind of thing is demonic", and it's "abnormal and worrying" to dress up as video game/whatever characters, and she even threatened to make me come back home to france if I couldn't be trusted to be responsible and sensible over here by myself. Guh. So of course, I have to hide this fun side hobby of mine, and lie to my parents (which I hate), because they refuse to be sensible about it. They take it as some form of extreme escapism, like I'm trying to run away from real life or something. I was like "but it's just like going to a halloween party dressed up, except that I put more effort into it T__T ".
Oh well. Would be fine if it was just cosplay, but it's all my other hobbies. Just yesterday as I was arranging details for a weekend in Prague, my mother reminded me "I have no problem with you travelling by yourself, it's more that funny Final Fantasy business I'm worried about." (only game name she can remember I think xD ). And apparently I should be thinking about clothes and makeup at my age - isn't cosplay kinda like that?

There you go cosplayisland, I just pourred all my heart and frustration into this! xD;;;


18 May 2009 - 10:0714539
Quote Pem:
I had to listen to an hour rant on how "that kind of thing is demonic", and it's "abnormal and worrying" to dress up as video game/whatever characters,

I can relate to this little bit. Before my parents loosened up, they were just like this. I remember my mum read a news article once about manga, which the uneducated author had called 'japanese porn'. That earned me a big long lecture about liking it. I'm from a strict Catholic family, and my parents were VERY good at giving lectures!

I consider myself extremely lucky now that things have changed My parents are very easygoing now, but it took a LOT of extremism from me for them to see it, and I don't think I'll ever forget what it was like to be so restricted!

Also, I know the rules about being 18 means you can legally do what you like, but I was still only allowed to go to my first con a few months before I turned 19, and even then, my mum picked me up and dropped me off!


18 May 2009 - 19:0114575
Quote Millenia:
Also, I know the rules about being 18 means you can legally do what you like, but I was still only allowed to go to my first con a few months before I turned 19, and even then, my mum picked me up and dropped me off!


This seems to be the case for quite a few people! I guess parents see you as a 'child' who's under their control until you've left home and are totally self sufficient! Personally I find that frame of mind very hard to understand.


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